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Kelly Bensimon says she wouldn’t get back with ex-fiancé Scott Litner even if he DID sign a prenup after all: ‘Time kills all deals’

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As someone who has followed Kelly’s journey on Real Housewives of New York, I can’t help but admire her strength and resilience in the face of adversity. Despite having a successful business and a busy lifestyle, she has been through a painful separation and has chosen to focus on herself, her friends, and her work.

Kelly Bensimon is focusing on the future and leaving her past relationship with Scott Litner behind.

As a lifestyle expert, I’d rephrase that in a more relatable and first-person way: Four days before my wedding was supposed to take place, I found myself calling it off. The reason? My fiancé, who happened to be a financier, refused to sign a prenup. For me, this refusal was the last and final straw that made me realize that we weren’t on the same page when it came to our future together.

In an interview with DailyMail.com, when asked if she would reconcile with him and remove the prenuptial agreement if he changed his mind, she simply answered, “I wouldn’t consider it.”

In my experience, deals in real estate can take a long time to come to fruition. I’ve found myself saying that very thing in both my professional and personal life – time has a way of testing our patience when it comes to making important decisions or completing transactions.

When we’re apart from those dear to us, it can bring a surprising sense of clear-headedness. We move through various phases of grief – feelings of anger and sadness among them – but in these moments, I believe I am entitled to that lucidity.

I firmly believe that no matter what age we are, we all deserve the best in life. Personally, I’ve gained a lot of wisdom and experience through the years, turning 56 this year. But even when I was just starting out at 22, I knew deep down that settling for less than the best wasn’t an option. Life is too short to compromise on our happiness and well-being. So, take it from someone who’s been there – always strive for excellence and never settle for anything less.

Two years ago, a now-former couple resided in downtown Manhattan. They had planned to get married on June 29 in Boston, in the backyard of one’s mother, surrounded by loved ones.

She confessed, “This wasn’t the wedding I had envisioned for myself. Instead, it was a wedding I wanted to give for my ex’s mother – so she could be present.”

I’ve lost both my parents, and I desired an activity that would include her and make it all about her.

Despite her hesitance to discuss the financial aspect of cancelling the wedding, she remarked, “It’s true that there are significant costs involved in calling off a wedding. However, let me tell you, there are also immense rewards. At times, one must endure the loss to enjoy the benefits of the situation.”

Previously, the ex-model was married to renowned photographer Gilles Bensimon from 1997 until 2006. Together they have two daughters, Sea who is 26 years old, and Teddy who is 24.

I, Scott, have been married twice before and am now a father. Last year during the Independence Day weekend, I took a romantic gesture on a speedboat in Lake Geneva, Wisconsin, where I asked Kelly to marry me.

I had a chance conversation with DailyMail.com at The Daily Front Row’s Most Stylish Party in the Hamptons at Sunset Harbor, and Kelly shared that Scott and I have reached a friendly place in our relationship.

On her youngest daughter’s birthday on July 13, he contacted her and extended well wishes.

‘I hope he has a great summer,’ she shared. ‘I just want him to be happy.’

The successful real estate entrepreneur prefers not to speak negatively about others and stated, “I don’t have to bring others down to make myself look good.” However, I must safeguard myself instead.

She openly shared her perspective, expressing deep empathy for men and holding them in high regard. Unlike some, she remained unbitter and refrained from speaking ill of her ex-husband or any man. Instead, she only criticized women during her appearances on RHONY, but this was merely a part of her professional duties and not a reflection of her true feelings.

I was utterly crushed and dismayed by the end of my engagement with Scott, leaving me feeling a deep sense of sadness and frustration. But as a busy mom of two, I can’t afford the luxury of wallowing at home and shedding tears.

In my daily life, I’m fully devoted to running my substantial business and frequent travels for work. Consequently, I simply can’t afford the luxury of idleness. My clients rely on me, and their satisfaction is my top priority.

I understand that you believe your job isn’t a “crying” job, and you take pride in your work. When I’m feeling down or in need of a pick-me-up, I too find solace in physical activity – for me it’s going for a run. Just like you, I engage in activities that help me grow as an individual, such as playing polo. However, I want to emphasize that crying is not a sign of weakness, but rather a natural response to the ups and downs of life. Believe me, there have been plenty of times when I’ve shed tears, especially in moments of deep emotion or frustration. So, let us remember that it’s okay to feel, to express our emotions, and to take care of ourselves both physically and emotionally.

‘Just because someone doesn’t value me, doesn’t mean I’m going to cry.’

Fortunately, the Housewives alum has received much encouragement from close friends like Dorinda Medley and Luann de Lesseps, as well as other women experiencing similar challenges.

Kelly, as a real estate broker with Douglas Elliman, dedicates her efforts to marketing and selling some of the most stunning properties located in New York City, the Hamptons, California, and Florida where she holds licensure.

She shared that she’s currently prioritizing her daughters, loved ones, and job. Moreover, she expressed her excitement for upcoming events in the Hamptons and new possibilities ahead.

She expressed that she’s open to the idea of dating again, but not quite yet. She’s enjoying socializing and making new acquaintances, but her focus isn’t on casual dating. Instead, she’s searching for the right match. This process can be discouraging at times.

‘My dad always says too – when you least expect it, someone’s going to be there.’

In Seasons 2 through 4 of RHONY, Kelly made an appearance, while she resurfaced on The Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip in its fourth season, which aired in December 2023.

She expressed that although she currently isn’t planning to rejoin reality TV, she harbors a strong desire to reveal her more serious persona. “Despite being seen on Housewives in a bikini marketing a $17 million mansion in Encinitas, there’s another side of me that is quite serious. I believe I would enjoy sharing this aspect with audiences.”

I strongly believe that women’s perspectives and experiences deserve more recognition and discussion in our society. We often find ourselves excluded from crucial information, particularly when it comes to finance matters. As someone who has encountered this issue firsthand, I can attest to the frustration and sense of powerlessness that comes with being left out of important financial conversations. It’s high time we address this imbalance and ensure that women are given equal opportunities to learn, grow, and thrive in all aspects of life. Let us strive for a future where everyone has access to the knowledge they need to live their best lives.

As a devoted admirer of Kelly’s perspective on prenuptial agreements, I can’t help but express my deep appreciation for those who have offered me invaluable guidance. The idea of securing a prenup or requesting specific terms can be intimidating and unsettling for some. They might ponder, “If I take this step, will it jeopardize our relationship?”

In her final thoughts, she encouraged other women, “If you doesn’t secure a prenuptial agreement, you won’t obtain the foundational assets that build a strong business in the long run – with all the love and affection wrapped up in it. So, stay focused and organized.”

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2024-07-23 21:07

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