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Ulrika Jonsson, 57, admits she finds men ‘less attractive’ since going sober as she opens up on her ‘very different’ sex life

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Ulrika Jonsson has confessed that she finds men less appealing now that she is sober, discussing the significant changes in her intimate life.

Discussing her love life after a year of abstaining from alcohol, the actress, now 57, shared insights about it.

Ulrika, being unattached, mentioned that while sex is more enjoyable when sober, she experiences more anxiety due to abstaining from alcohol.

Indeed, though I had a feeling that being sober during intimate moments could potentially enhance the experience.

Certainly, alcohol can lower one’s inhibitions, making it seem simpler to engage in or initiate sexual activities. However, the pleasure derived from such experiences is often significantly distinct when not under the influence.

‘So that’s been quite interesting too.

A first date wouldn’t be possible for me without sharing a drink. It acts as a kind of social ‘grease’. It helps make the initial interaction more comfortable and smooth.

Instead, she said: “Abstaining from alcohol while on a date makes it challenging – extremely challenging, since people appear less appealing.

‘You just become a little bit more available I guess – it is easier.’

Last month marked a challenging milestone for me – my first anniversary of embracing sobriety. But I can proudly say, here I am, standing tall and confident, knowing that this positive change is here to stay!

Last year’s anniversary of my sobriety was tough for me, as people kept congratulating me, making it feel like this achievement defines my entire life. To be honest, I firmly believe I will never take another drink again.

Ulrika believes she could potentially enjoy a single drink without slipping back into her old habits, but she’s hesitant about the potential risks involved.

She expressed her concern, stating, “I’d rather not gamble. There’s a possibility I might drink wine today, but if things go wrong again, there’s a risk I may fall back into my old habits.

Currently, contemplating a drink like rum when things go wrong leaves me feeling nauseous. I have no desire for it.

At first, when I ventured out for a Sunday meal, typically a roasted dish of any variety, seeing others savoring their glasses of red wine, I’d often find myself yearning for that peaceful, enjoyable atmosphere.

‘So my belief is that this is forever. I couldn’t think like that at the beginning.

Initially, I was going for 24 hours, then 48 hours, eventually a week passed, and a month too. However, reaching nearly a year felt a tad underwhelming as it seemed like ‘this never-ending stretch of sobriety.’

Additionally, Ulrika mentions that her perception of herself and her life has undergone a transformation, not just due to sobriety.

She mentioned that the transformation has been enormous, impacting her not just as an individual but as a whole. Her perspective and methodology have undergone a radical shift entirely.

Initially, I felt I didn’t excel at living, I seemed ill-suited for it, and I considered myself merely ordinary or even poor in quality.

It seems like I might be connecting with a past version of myself that I hadn’t realized was still there. I used to have a low opinion of myself, often putting myself down. My self-esteem wasn’t particularly strong.

‘I always felt below, and I don’t feel that any more.

In my personal journey, I never imagined reaching this point in life. Tragically, my father passed away unexpectedly at 53 years old. The thought of pensions and such seemed like distant concerns, as I believed I wouldn’t make it past that age. Whenever I share this perspective with the kids, they often remind me to stay positive by saying, “Mom, stop saying that,” but I reassure them, “I am confident I won’t be here.

Suddenly, I discovered a renewed longing for life, uncovering fresh insights about myself, my abilities, and my inherent strengths.

I’m eager for many more intimate moments and lots of enjoyable experiences. Since the children are now capable of taking care of themselves, I have more freedom to pursue my own interests.

Currently, I’m eager to make up for the decades of pessimistic thoughts I’ve missed out on, essentially aiming to change my self-perception from a negative to a more positive one.

During those times, I found myself filled with intense anger while I was consuming alcohol. Everything seemed to provoke my anger – the circumstances affecting me, attempts being made regarding my life, and even the search for solutions.

Initially, you may find yourself envying others’ seemingly perfect lives, thinking “I wish I had that” or “Why can’t my life be like that?” However, starting your day with a gratitude list has significantly transformed this negative mindset. Instead of dwelling on what’s missing, you now actively acknowledge the good things in your life and even share it with someone close to you.

Instead of immediately reacting negatively to a small issue at the start of your day, such as finding a dropped brush, you now seem to discover something and then respond with an ‘Ah, that’s interesting…’-type sentiment. Previously, you might have begun the day with a more frustrated exclamation like ‘Oh my God, look at the messy brush on the floor.’

Ulrika shared that she’s undergone therapy intermittently for about three decades, expressing that she may have briefly stopped consuming alcohol in the past; however, such abstinence wouldn’t have been sustainable – as she needed to first reach a point where she felt more self-satisfied and had a better grasp of her actions.

She mentioned that she could abstain from drinking, but questioned whether she could sustain this change without delving into self-discovery, such as emotional purging and understanding the roots of her actions.

‘Giving up alcohol has been absolutely vital for me. It’s not just my behavior that’s changed dramatically, but I’ve also discovered a sense of tranquility within myself.’

Ulrika said regularly meeting with others in her situation had helped her achieve that.

As a dedicated follower, I find solace in attending multiple support group meetings each week. Typically, I participate in three sessions, some of which are in-person while others I join online for added convenience.

I’ve made it a point to attend regularly. On Christmas Day and Easter Sunday, I went specifically because I wanted to escape the company of intoxicated individuals.

In a new turn of events, the mother of four – Cameron (30), Bo (25), Martha (20), and Malcolm (17) – expressed, “Currently, maintaining sobriety holds the top spot for me. Previously, I might have said that my children are my priority.

If I’m not sober, I won’t be able to care for my kids properly, which could lead to a terrible situation.

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2025-07-17 20:05

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