The open secret about Booby Tape founder Bridgett Roccisano’s marriage split just months after having a baby – and it’s an all too familiar story: AMANDA GOFF

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Last week, when Bridgett Roccisano, the fashion icon of Melbourne and co-founder of Booby Tape, declared her separation, there was a shockwave felt in Toorak, equivalent to veneers falling.

I became a proud parent of a little girl in late April. However, before the ink on our newborn’s birth certificate had fully dried, my two-year marriage with Joshua Cavallaro had already ended.

To say it came as a shock would be an understatement.

In a message to her followers, Bridgett, who has her breast tape brand available in over 40 countries globally, expressed that she felt both heartbroken and let down because things didn’t turn out as she had planned.

On the day they wed, this couple appeared overjoyed, but unfortunately, their story took a turn for the tragic as time went by.

Then… I took a look at Joshua’s social media.

Suddenly, this story became very interesting indeed.

Yes, there were numerous posts showing Joshua beaming with paternal pride, yet a consistent motif seemed to surface, causing me a bit of unease and making me feel uncomfortable in the back of my mind.

Golf. Golf. Golf. And more golf.

To clarify, let me make it clear that I hold no grudge against golf or the gentlemen who enjoy it. However, while poking around, I sensed a strong affection for the golf course, as if it were his deepest passion.

Eighteen holes played around eight weeks back. After that, I managed a few games over the past three weeks. Notably, I played another round a week ago with friends, which included drinks and cigars.

And those are just the golf trips he’s posted online!

It is difficult for me to be certain, but my best guess is that she was handling breast pumps and changing soiled diapers.

Is it possible that this could explain why his marriage seems to be facing difficulties lately? To be clear, I don’t claim to know anything definitive, but it’s a thought that crossed my mind.

In her well-known remarks regarding her separation from Prince Charles, Princess Diana expressed it as, ‘Our marriage had a third party.’

In my case, when I mentioned it, I was undeniably alluding to the mistress of my spouse, who goes by the name Camilla Parker Bowles. To put it another way, if Bridgett and Joshua were the ones speaking, they might have referred to their shared secret in a similar fashion, but instead of a person, the third party would be a golf club, specifically a nine-iron.

It appears to me, based on Joshua’s online activity, that his priorities might be somewhat mixed or unclear.

Typically, new fathers tend to cut back on their social media activity for approximately 12 months after the birth of their child, as they focus on ensuring both mother and baby are healthy. Social gatherings with friends, often referred to as ‘boys’ nights’, become less frequent. Sleep becomes a luxury, and time off work is scarce. This appears to be the norm in many cases.

Contemplating this recent separation, I find myself pondering a broader perspective about certain fathers – focusing on the word ‘certain’, not all – who view their initial year as a carefree sabbatical, similar to a leisurely gap year.

As women tirelessly navigate through sleepless nights, painful nipples, hormonal ups and downs, and a body that feels foreign, some men seem to effortlessly sail through.

It’s not that all men are like this, but it’s hard to deny that there are many who seem to prioritize golf outings and gym workouts over caring for their families, especially during challenging times like when their partner is adjusting to motherhood and dealing with sleep deprivation.

A friend of mine arranged a wellness spa vacation in Thailand for himself when their infant was just a few months old, as he confessed he was feeling drained and overwhelmed, requiring some downtime to rejuvenate. Naturally, his spouse remained at home.

This trainer, Jono Castano, who resembles a celebrity, recently separated from his model partner Simone Holtznagel only nine weeks following the birth of their daughter, Gia, last year.

Nine weeks, folks. Almost as short as Jono himself.

The cause of their split, as I’ve learned, was mainly because they had different lifestyle choices. Shortly after Gia was born, Jono, at 33 years old, went on a solo trip, which suggests a significant discrepancy in their daily routines and preferences.

In my role as a lifestyle advisor, let me share an intriguing bit of news. While I’m busy tending to our little one, it seems that Jono has been spotted enjoying some time outside, in the company of none other than reality TV personality, Emily Ryder.

I’m so, so pleased he’s found his happy ending.

To clarify, I’m not implying that Jono or Joshua are poor fathers in any way. After all, we never truly know the full story of someone’s life based on what we see on social media, which tends to showcase more positive moments rather than everyday struggles like dealing with crying babies.

Both men have proudly posted their daughters online and I have no doubt they love them deeply.

This isn’t about whether they’re good dads. 

It frequently becomes apparent during a child’s early years that there is a striking discrepancy in the responsibilities shouldered by parents.

For many new mothers, the feeling that they are doing it alone weighs on them like an open secret.

Some people find it difficult to confess this due to the worry that they might be seen as bothersome or nagging, or because their friends who have strong relationships may not understand the issue.

Right now, my thoughts are with Bridgett. By all accounts, she’s a remarkable woman.

She transitioned from barely making ends meet to becoming a top-tier leader. However, she now encounters an unexpected personal hurdle.

I can’t find the words to soften this, but here’s what I can offer – a silent multitude is secretly cheering you on. You’re capable, keep going.

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2025-08-01 17:35