Safiyya Vorajee opens up on struggle to find someone worthy of her love following heartbreaking split from Ashley Cain who she dated after having an abusive relationship

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In her latest Instagram post shared on Thursday, Safiyya Vorajee, formerly linked with Ashley Cain, candidly discussed her challenges in finding a suitable partner for love.

The popular figure, aged 36, reshared touching advice from renowned New York Times bestselling author R.H. Sin, encouraging individuals not to let past relationships prevent them from maintaining faith in love.

In the past, I’ve been transparent about my experience with an ex-partner who was physically abusive. He would hit, punch, and damage my car. Moreover, he isolated me from my dearest friends and family members.

Last month, she asserted that she separated from Ashley due to his turn towards alcohol after the passing of their daughter Azaylia.

She stated last month that her divorce from Ashley was a result of him turning to alcohol following the tragic death of their baby girl Azaylia.

‘You seem to be having trouble discovering someone deserving of your commitment and effort as a partner.’

You may not have felt much love and peace in your relationships for a while, but remember that you’re evidence that true love exists because it lives within you. Even when you feel like giving up, don’t forget that love is part of who you are.

Embrace the idea that you have the potential to be your own source of profound love, without compromising the special place reserved for the ultimate love of your life.

As a devoted believer, let me encourage you not to give your past relationships’ influences the upper hand. Embrace the promise of a love that aligns with your dedication and longing, for something wonderful is on its way!

‘I’m telling you this because I care about you and your heart!’

Sadly, Safiyya and the well-known TV host Ashley, aged 33, experienced an unimaginable loss as their daughter passed away at eight months old, following her brave fight against a rare type of cancer.

Azaylia received a diagnosis of acute myeloid leukemia, along with growths in her lungs, stomach, and kidneys.

At Birmingham Children’s Hospital, she underwent multiple sessions of chemotherapy and a bone marrow transplant. Regrettably, she passed away on April 24, 2021.

During her stay at Birmingham Children’s Hospital, she received numerous rounds of chemotherapy as well as a bone marrow transplant. Unfortunately, she lost her life on April 24, 2021.

Safiyya mentioned that she and the previous star of Ex On The Beach, Ashley, faced challenges dealing with their sorrow. However, his heavy drinking led to their separation.

In an episode of Paul C. Brunson’s “We Need To Talk” podcast, I shared my experience. I expressed that I patiently waited for him as he navigated through his grief, but unfortunately, the weight of it all became too overwhelming for me.

As a devoted admirer, I found myself eagerly expressing, “Let’s embark on this journey side by side.” Yet, there was an impenetrable shield surrounding him – his own protective armor. The torrent of feelings and raw pain that engulfed him made navigation seemingly impossible for him.

‘I kind of waited for him but he ended up drinking quite a lot and going down that road. 

‘I’m not someone who really drinks and I needed him but he needed to be by himself. 

‘There is no right and wrong with grief.’

In another part of the conversation, it was disclosed that Safiyya initially offered Ashley a three-month break from drinking when their romantic relationship began.

During that period, Ashley was making club appearances and spinning records, but Safiyya suggested that for their relationship to function smoothly, Ashley should return home after these events rather than continuing to party late into the night.

As a devoted admirer, I was guided through a process where she instructed me to introduce her to the man she desired. She proposed a 90-day trial for him, which essentially meant scaling back on our social engagements. Instead of partying after work as usual, we focused on maintaining a steady routine: work, earn a paycheck, and return home. This change was necessary because he had a tendency to party excessively.

I asked him to demonstrate, but if he wasn’t comfortable with that, it was perfectly okay. Regardless, he aced the test.

TopMob has contacted Ashley’s representatives for comment. 

In another place, I found myself overcome with emotion as I shared my painful past. Once upon a time, I had an abusive partner who not only physically hurt me, but also damaged my car and severed ties with my dearest friends and relatives.

Referring to the ex whose name she didn’t mention, who she dated before Ashley, she shared that in her early twenties, she found herself unexpectedly involved in a domestic relationship – something she hadn’t foreseen given her strength.

In simpler terms, I found myself craving companionship despite having a thriving career. The intense affection, often referred to as ‘love bombing,’ filled the void of loneliness I was experiencing.

It felt as though he intended to treat me to luxury hotels, dinners, shopping sprees, vacations, and so on. However, these extravagances came about gradually, and at times, I would express doubts like, “I assumed you’d understand my taste in clothing.” Bit by bit, he seemed to erode my confidence, making me question everything I did, and I felt myself shrinking to fit his mold.

Safiyya recalled an awful event while driving in a car. She couldn’t remember the cause of the argument, but her partner suddenly hit her directly in the face.

I pulled over, got myself out of the vehicle, hopped into the driver’s seat, and was left behind as he sped away with my car. Stranded, I had to borrow someone’s phone to call my mom to pick me up and bring me home.

Although my mother warned me against returning, I disregarded her advice and went back anyway, feeling a sense of guilt and utter madness. She exerted every effort to prevent me from going back. He expressed remorse and claimed it was an unusual incident, swearing his affection for me was genuine and he would prove it. I stayed there for a total of four years.

Paul asked if the abuse happened again and without hesitation she replied ‘repeatedly’. 

If you have been affected by this story please contact Samaritans on 116 123; Alcohol Anonymous on 0800 917 7650 / help@aamail.org; The Lullaby Trust on: 0808 802 6868 / support@lullabytrust.org.uk

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2025-08-07 18:34