Lily Allen hints at open relationship with ‘boundaries’ with ex David Harbour and says dating apps ‘make people disposable’ – after she found him using Raya

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Lily Allen suggested she and her ex-husband, David Harbour, had an open relationship with agreed-upon limits, during a recent interview where she spoke about their past marriage.

The 40-year-old singer, who recently released her first album in seven years – an album that explores her ex-partner David’s infidelity – has spoken out about how traditional relationship boundaries are being disregarded. She believes dating apps contribute to increased temptation and cheating.

Lily’s latest song, “West End Girl,” is getting attention for its very direct and honest portrayal of her divorce from actor David, which finalized last December. She had previously accused him of infidelity, ending their four-year marriage.

Okay, so in her biggest song yet, “Madeline,” she really seems to be calling out David’s affair. She even gives this other woman a made-up name within the lyrics – it’s a really direct way of dealing with the situation, and everyone’s talking about it!

The song’s lyrics imply Lily believed the couple had an understanding that they could both see other people, as long as it remained secret and involved paying for it, and wasn’t about forming emotional bonds.

She’s singing about questioning how long an affair has been happening, wondering if it’s just physical or if real feelings are involved. He promised to keep it secret, limited to private encounters, and never public.

I have no reason to believe a word he says. I strongly suspect he cheated on me while we were at home.

The song’s chorus reveals a secret agreement: keep things quiet and avoid drawing attention. It involved a payment made to people they didn’t know – except for Madeline, who was an exception to the rule.

I was really struck by what Lily shared in her interview with The Times. She basically admitted that things weren’t handled right in her relationship with David – that boundaries they’d both set weren’t respected. It was also interesting to hear her talk about how dating apps have unfortunately made it easier for people to be unfaithful.

As a lifestyle expert, I’ve noticed something interesting lately. We generally establish boundaries in our relationships – things we’re comfortable with and aren’t. But honestly, I’m seeing those lines get really blurry right now. It feels like people aren’t always respecting those boundaries as much as they used to, and it’s creating a lot of confusion.

Dating apps can make people feel like they’re easily replaced, creating the belief that if a relationship isn’t working, there are always plenty of other options available with just a swipe on your phone.

Lily found out about David’s affair when she stumbled upon his profile on the exclusive Raya dating app and realized what was happening.

The singer created her own account on the dating app, claiming she was interested in women, and discovered her soon-to-be ex-husband had a profile of his own.

I was really struck by what she said in the interview. She explained how she thinks dating apps are turning people into something…replaceable, and really shaking up our traditional ideas about being with just one person. It’s a perspective I’ve been feeling for a while now, and it’s so insightful to hear someone articulate it so well.

After her breakup with David, Lily sought help at a specialized treatment center costing £8,000 per week to work on her emotional well-being.

She shared that she uses her music to process difficult emotions and express her honest feelings.

The mother of two explained that people weren’t aware of the struggles she was facing. She went to the recording studio, spent two hours crying, and then decided to channel her emotions into making music.

She acknowledged that being raised by comedians Keith Allen and Harry Enfield – her father and stepfather – taught her to cope with difficult times by using humor. She explained that music serves the same purpose in her life, allowing her to express and process her feelings creatively.

Fans have been intensely debating how truthful the lyrics on Lily’s candid and daring album really are, and she’s acknowledged she used creative freedom when writing them.

She explained that the album does contain material inspired by her personal experiences in a past relationship.

Fans have jokingly compared Madeline to ‘Becky with the good hair’ – a figure mentioned in Beyoncé’s 2016 song ‘Sorry,’ which is about infidelity. The comparison suggests Madeline is the woman Beyoncé was referencing in the song.

The song includes sections where the character Madeline sends text messages to Lily, bluntly stating that their relationship is purely physical and lacks any emotional connection.

We only communicate when we’re together, and he always speaks of you with great respect.

Madeline later said she was really sorry he was hurting and didn’t want to be the reason for his distress.

‘He told me you were aware this was going on and that he had your full consent.

If you think he’s not being truthful, please tell me. I don’t like dishonesty and I don’t want to be involved in any lies.

Lily recently mentioned that her ex-husband wouldn’t answer questions about his three-year relationship with a coworker who was younger than him.

In a recent interview with Perfect Magazine, the celebrity revealed that her marriage to David didn’t improve how she felt about herself, and described the experience of dating again in her 40s as ‘humiliating’.

Honestly, listening to her talk about it just gets me. It’s like, she was so lost, you know? Everything felt messed up, and she couldn’t even figure out what was actually happening versus what she was imagining. It’s heartbreaking, but also… so relatable? I just feel everything she felt when she says that.

It involves putting things together yourself. When you don’t have clear answers, your mind naturally fills with questions.

If people don’t get answers to their questions, their mind often fills in the gaps itself. I suspect that’s what occurred in this situation.

Speaking openly about the split, she explained that it was simply a case of two people who were once a couple no longer being together, and that it was deeply upsetting. She admitted it was difficult to cope without the person she’d been close to.

I tend to rely on others too much, and I struggle to accept support from the people around me when I’m longing for someone who isn’t there.

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2025-10-26 15:49