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Jennifer Lopez opens up post-Affleck: ‘Being in a relationship doesn’t define me’

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Jennifer Lopez opens up post-Affleck: 'Being in a relationship doesn't define me'

As a supporter, I admire Jennifer Lopez for her resilience and self-awareness. Her journey, especially post-divorce, is a testament to her strength and determination. The way she has navigated through personal turmoil, introspection, and growth is truly inspiring.

This is Jennifer Lopez … post-divorce.

Last summer wasn’t a walk in the park or a carefree season for me, not even close. Instead, my entire universe seemingly shattered during that tumultuous and transformative period. The media was abuzz with speculation about my marriage to Ben Affleck, I had to cancel my concert tour, and eventually, we parted ways after two years of marriage – an Oscar-winning partnership that came to an end.

For the initial occasion following their separation, the renowned pop artist admitted to focusing on self-acceptance and personal discovery.

“It’s looking back at the feelings underneath and the belief systems that we have about ourselves that make us make certain choices and create certain patterns in our life,” she told comedian Nikki Glaser in an Interview magazine sit-down published Wednesday. “And so, when you get to a point where you think that you’ve learned the lessons, and then it blows up in your face again, you realize, ‘OK, I haven’t, so what is it that I need to look at right now?’ I would say, never stop looking inward, because it’s so easy to blame everybody else.”

In my own words, I’d say: Despite not explicitly naming Affleck, the Grammy Award winner subtly referenced our past and the challenges we faced, including our split. She kept her speech personal and reflected on her recent achievements, like the release of “This Is Me… Now” on Prime Video and completing “Unstoppable.” However, life took an unexpected turn for me when my world seemed to shatter. I postponed my summer tour and ended up parting ways with my fourth partner in a divorce. To add to that, the media frenzy over Bennifer 2.0 didn’t make things any easier.

But she does not regret the pain — “not one second” of it — even though it almost took her out for good, she said. Looking back, she thinks it is “exactly what I needed.”

She stated, “For something truly comprehensive, you must prioritize your health and self-sufficiency. It seemed I had grasped this concept earlier, but it was only recently that I realized I hadn’t fully understood. This summer, I found myself needing to assert, ‘I need some time alone to show myself that I can manage on my own.’

At the age of 55, Lopez confessed that it’s been incredibly challenging for her, not only feeling lonely, unfamiliar, scary, and sad, but also desperate. However, despite these tough emotions, she acknowledged that they haven’t managed to take her life, which led her to understand that she is capable of experiencing joy and happiness independently.

I am not solely defined by my relationships. I shouldn’t seek joy from others; instead, I must find happiness within myself. Previously, I labeled myself as a happy person, but I was still chasing something to complete me, realizing that it was just me who needed fulfillment. Essentially, I discovered that I am already whole.

The actress known for roles in “The Wedding Planner” and “Maid in Manhattan” shared that she once believed being perfect was necessary for love, but now feels that someone who genuinely loves you helps mend those self-perceived flaws. This statement seems to deviate from the image of unwavering romance she often portrayed in her work.

As a film enthusiast, I’ve come to realize that love is about feeling secure. It’s not just about warm and fuzzy feelings, but it’s also about understanding each other’s imperfections, knowing that when we stumble, we’ll help each other grow. We both have our own boundaries, and it’s essential to communicate where we might be falling short so that we can improve together. It’s a beautiful journey of growth and improvement, hand in hand.

Lopez shared that she’s come to understand over time, anything penned or spoken regarding her personality or the speculation about her true self, doesn’t define who she truly is.

Simultaneously, the “Waiting for Tonight” vocalist expressed her eagerness to resume entertaining her audience again. She feels remorseful towards them as she believes she disappointed them due to the cancellation of her tour.

I felt compelled to spend time with my children and myself, focusing intently on personal matters I was facing. It turned out to be quite a challenging phase for me – one of the toughest periods in my life. Yet, it was also incredibly rewarding as it provided an opportunity for significant self-growth.

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2024-10-10 00:01

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