Hilaria Baldwin, 41, reveals she and husband Alec, 67, are in therapy to navigate their age-gap marriage

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Hilaria Baldwin, wife of actor Alec Baldwin, has shared that they are both in therapy to help manage the challenges of their significant age difference. She also confessed to feeling like she lost some sense of who she was after getting married.

In an interview on Caroline Stanbury’s podcast, Uncut And Uncensored, the 41-year-old mother of seven discussed the difficulties she faced during her 13-year marriage to the 67-year-old actor known for the film Rust.

‘I don’t believe that age is just a number, at least in our situation,’ she said. 

Look, when you’re working with someone who’s been at it for decades, there are moments where you just have to acknowledge their expertise – and honestly, sometimes they know they have more experience and aren’t afraid to show it! But it also means navigating those differences, and sometimes that requires a little honest conversation and understanding to make sure we’re both on the same page. It’s all about balance, really.

The couple first met in 2011 while dining at a Manhattan restaurant, and they married in 2012. They went on to have seven children: Carmen, who is twelve, Rafael, ten, Leonardo, nine, Romeo, seven, Eduardo, five, María Lucía, four, and Ilaria, three.

Alec also shares daughter Ireland, 30, with his first wife, actress Kim Basinger, 71.

The yoga instructor, recently eliminated from Dancing with the Stars, clarified that despite reports suggesting she wanted a large family, it was actually her husband, Alec, who first expressed that desire.

She said, “Honestly, he’d probably keep going.” She added, “I’m done, thank you. But he’s the second oldest of six children, so he’s used to sharing and wanting more.”

He had a well-known and difficult history with his ex-wife and involving Ireland. It seems he hoped for a fresh start, a chance to handle things differently and make better decisions this time around.

She explained that while life with the Baldwin family is usually hectic, it’s also incredibly loving. They always remember how wonderful it is, and everything feels intentional and carefully considered.

Despite their close bond, Hilaria admitted their relationship is not without conflict.

Of course we have our difficult times and typical disagreements, like any couple,” she admitted.

It really comes down to both people wanting the relationship to succeed and being committed to making it happen. With that shared desire, I believe you can overcome any challenge together.

The couple’s marriage has been tested in ways few could imagine. 

In 2021, Halyna Hutchins, a cinematographer, was tragically killed on the set of the Western movie Rust when a prop gun unexpectedly fired.

Alec faced a charge of involuntary manslaughter, but the case was dropped last year. Hilaria claims this happened because of widespread corruption.

She remembered that filming for their reality show, The Baldwins, started just two weeks before the trial began, a period when their lives felt chaotic and they were simply trying to get through each day.

She confessed that parenting can be really overwhelming, and sometimes she finds herself crying or arguing with her husband, Alec. It often feels like she’s the only adult around to handle things, and she has to remind herself that she’s the one who needs to lead and guide her children.

Hilaria said she feared the worst before the trial began. 

I remember her telling us that she’d gathered the team and said, ‘Right, we need to pause things while this trial is happening, and we’ll pick up again in a few weeks once it’s finished.’ But you could hear the worry in her voice – she kept repeating, ‘What if I can’t bring him back? What will happen then?’ Honestly, none of us knew what the future held, and it was a really uncertain time.

It gave us a voice when it felt like the world was trying to silence us. It’s incredibly difficult when you don’t have a way to share your side of the story. With so much being said about us, being able to present ourselves – my family, my husband, and our experience from our perspective – was truly healing as it happened.

Hilaria Baldwin has spoken about the difficulties of being known primarily as Alec Baldwin’s wife and how she’s worked to establish her own identity beyond his celebrity.

‘I think in many ways, I did lose part of my identity when I married Alec,’ she confessed. 

It was the first time so many people were discussing me publicly. I shared something on my Instagram Stories where someone pointed out the importance of understanding and being able to clearly explain who you are. Otherwise, you risk letting other people define you, because everyone will have their own opinion.

This isn’t coming from a celebrity or anyone special. We’re all just human beings, the same in the end, whether we’re well-known or not.

I used to try too hard to make everyone happy, but I’m working on changing that. I naturally want the people around me to feel good and enjoy being with me.

When people criticize me – things like how I speak, the size of my family, or my husband’s age – it really gets to me. I start to wonder if there’s something wrong with who I am.

She also revealed that she’s now learning to reclaim her sense of self. 

Hilaria shared that she’s been realizing she wasn’t fully honest with herself about who she is. However, she sees this as a positive thing – a chance to learn and grow from a difficult situation, like making something good out of something sour.

I can’t control what others say, but I can understand myself well enough to avoid feeling deeply upset, like I have so often in the past.

Hilaria advises couples with large age differences to acknowledge their unique perspectives and needs without making either person feel unimportant.

She admitted he wouldn’t believe she was 67, just as she didn’t expect him to be 41. Despite their differences, she believed they could still find common ground.

People often define me by my relationship to Alec Baldwin – as ‘Alec Baldwin’s wife’ or just ‘a guest’. I don’t mind being introduced that way in some situations, but at home, I need to be seen as my own person. I’m not someone’s sidekick; I deserve to be recognized as the central figure in my own life.

I didn’t plan for the life I have now, but I fully support my husband. We’re partners in everything – as a married couple and as parents. He’s Alec, and I’m Hilaria.

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2025-11-13 01:23