Ashley Cain’s ex Safiyya Vorajee pleads with fans to stop telling her that having another baby will fix her following daughter Azaylia’s death

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Safiyya Vorajee, who used to be with Ashley Cain, has asked fans to stop suggesting she have another baby, hoping it will help her cope with the grief of losing their daughter Azaylia five years ago. She shared her feelings in a recent Instagram video.

Safiyya, 36, and her former partner, Ashley, 33, experienced the heartbreaking loss of their eight-month-old daughter after a difficult battle with a rare cancer.

Azalyia received a diagnosis of acute myeloid leukemia and also had tumors affecting her lungs, stomach, and kidneys.

It absolutely broke my heart when I heard. She fought so incredibly hard – round after round of chemo, and then a bone marrow transplant at Birmingham Children’s Hospital. But despite everything, she just… she passed away on April 24th, 2021. I still can’t believe it, honestly. It feels so unfair.

Safiyya said last year that she and Ashley broke up because he started drinking heavily after the loss of their daughter, Azaylia.

She explained that they both had a hard time dealing with their loss, but his increasing reliance on alcohol led to their breakup.

Three years after the loss of his daughter, Ashley became a father again. In January 2024, he welcomed a son named Aliyas with a new partner, though they have since separated. He recently had another son, Atlas, who is now one month old.

In a recent video, Safiyya asked fans to be more considerate with their questions, sharing that she’s still recovering and working through emotional pain.

Safiyya shared a screenshot of a message asking when she planned to have another baby. She explained that she wasn’t even thinking about it at the moment, and wasn’t in any hurry.

Many people believe that after a loss, you’re expected to bounce back quickly or replace what’s missing, but that’s just not realistic. Some voids can never truly be filled.

I’m still figuring things out and learning how to move forward. I needed time to recover and mend what was broken inside me.

I’ve gone through therapy to work through a lot of pain. It’s been a process of facing difficult emotions and trying to understand them. I’ve also had to rebuild my life independently, focusing on both my emotional well-being and financial stability, all while dealing with deep grief.

Before I could even think about having another child, I needed to rediscover who I was and feel complete. I needed to feel whole as an individual before I could consider being in a relationship, and definitely before bringing a new life into the world.

There are days when simply getting through is enough, and I understand that might be hard for others to relate to. Right now, I’m focused on healing at my own pace and trusting that things will unfold as they should.

With the video, she wrote: ‘I’m asked about this constantly, and to be honest, it’s a difficult topic for me to discuss.’

People have been asking me about this for years, and I’m always a little surprised when they do, simply because it’s such a sensitive topic. Their curiosity can be painful, and it does genuinely bother me.

Losing a child is a pain no parent can truly prepare for. It’s an unimaginable grief, and I face the heartbreaking reality of that loss every single day.

The loss of a baby isn’t something you simply get over or move past. It fundamentally changes who you are, causing a deep and often invisible heartbreak.

Ugh, it seriously makes me cringe when people ask me that! It’s just… so deeply personal, you know? Like, it’s something I need to share when I’m ready, if I ever even can. It’s just… mine, and I want to control when, or if, anyone finds out. It feels incredibly invasive when people pry.

I’m still working on getting my own life together, and while people suggest having another baby might help, it’s not the answer for me. It wouldn’t be right to bring a child into the world when I haven’t found my own footing yet.

It’s been a long journey to rediscover self-love, especially since I’m navigating it alone. I’ve spent years learning to set healthy boundaries and rebuild my life after experiencing loss.

Losing a child fundamentally changes you. The person you were before simply no longer exists, and you have to learn how to live again from the very beginning.

I’m not even thinking about having another baby right now. And as someone who’s experienced the loss of a child, I really wish people would be more careful about asking that question – it can be really painful to hear.

I’m thankful I have a voice to share this. Please, before you ask a woman about having children, remember she may not be able to, or it might not be her choice.

Ashley recently shared with The Mirror how much joy his children bring him. He described them as ‘absolutely gorgeous’ and said they’ve been incredibly healing for him. While acknowledging the challenges of parenthood, he emphasized that it’s all worthwhile and expressed deep gratitude for having them.

He shared with heartfelt emotion: ‘I just know Azaylia would have loved these people, and they’ll love hearing all about her when I tell them her stories.’

He added that he often visits her resting place with Aliyas and Atlas.

Ashley shared, ‘I hope my sadness never fully goes away. Feeling this grief is just a way of still loving them, and I’ll cherish that connection for as long as I can.’

It’s common to want to avoid sadness, but it can be more healing to allow yourself to feel it and recognize that grief is simply a form of love for the person you’ve lost.

If this story has been upsetting, The Lullaby Trust is available to help. You can reach them at 0808 802 6868 or support@lullabytrust.org.uk.

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2026-04-09 14:06